New South Wales
As a community of mums (experiencing, expecting or experimenting!), we have a lot to learn from each other. As part of our recent Sex Survey, many local women shared their stories of struggling to conceive, pregnancy loss and the nitty-gritty of how they fell pregnant (or struggled to).
Over 800 people completed the survey, and opened up about their personal experiences around conception, fertility, contraception, pregnancy loss, and the less frequently tackled topics of miscarriage and abortion.
Note: This story may be triggering for some in its reference to abortion, miscarriage and other fertility issues.
To plan, or not to plan… that is the question. When it comes to falling pregnant, 63% of North Shore Mums actively planned to have a baby, 25% thought they’d just ‘see what happens’, whilst 12% fell pregnant by accident.
At this moment in time, only around 6% of North Shore Mums are actively trying for a baby.
How long does it take?
For at least half of mums, it only took them a couple of months to fall pregnant. And, interestingly, mums are falling pregnant quicker with subsequent children.
But it’s not easy for everyone, with fertility problems an upsetting issue for many North Shore Mums, with 18% taking at least 12 months to fall pregnant with their first child.
|1st Child||2nd Child||3rd Child|
|2 months or less||52%||58%||61%|
Around a quarter of women (24%) said they experiencing issues conceiving. Many said they had struggled with conditions like PCOS or endometriosis, or underwent IVF to conceive or tried medications such as Clomid or Letrozole.
A few mums had more to share about their struggle to conceive, saying:
Interestingly, only 37% of North Shore Mums are currently using some kind of contraception. Of those using, the most popular forms of contraception are:
Other methods used included having had a hysterectomy, abstinence, and breastfeeding.
Having a miscarriage is a devastating experience, but it’s not an uncommon one – with at least 1 in 3 (36%) North Shore Mums having experienced a miscarriage at some stage in their life.
Reassuringly, of those who have had them, 68% have just had the one miscarriage, and numbers drop off quite dramatically afterwards.
21% of respondents have had an abortion at some stage in their life, sharing the reasons why they chose this option:
So, who took the survey? The typical respondent was female, in her 30s or 40s, heterosexual, married and been with her partner for at least 10 years. She’s got at least one child, but more likely 2 kids, aged somewhere between a baby and 10 years old, and lives in (or near) the North Shore. But to delve a little deeper into the stats:
Age: 60% aged 30-39 years, 29% 40-49, 10% 29 or under.
Local Government Area:
Number of children: 49% have 2 kids, 28% 1 child, 16% have 3 kids, 5% 4 or more
Relationship Status: 86% married, 9% de facto, 2% in a relationship, 3% divorced
Sexuality: 96% heterosexual, 2% homosexual, 2% bisexual
This is just one half of the survey! You can read the results of our survey questions about sex lives, sexual confessions, masturbation and everything in between the sheets in our Sex Survey: The Results (Part 1).
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