As a Mum, each day we wear the hat of many roles; mother, wife, business owner, career woman, chef, cleaner, chauffeur, nurse, carer, organiser, teacher, tutor, entertainer. Sometimes, maybe, even part-time mechanic. We can easily feel selfish, if, for a split second, we want to look after ourselves instead of our families for a change. Does this sound familiar to you?
To hold the role of ‘Mum’ our nurturing instincts instantly kick in but just as important it is to give to others, it’s also über important to give back to ourselves. By allowing ourselves to do this, we will be happier and more content with our lives without any feelings of guilt.
How do we do this I hear you ask? There are not enough hours in the day as it is to even think about setting aside some ‘me time’.
I know exactly how you feel. I have been there myself after the birth of my first daughter (now aged 6). Now, I regularly schedule in ‘me time’ without the guilt and it truly does make such a difference. It has become part of my lifestyle.
In order for you to be successful in making ‘me time,’ you must first want to, and accept these as positive changes in not only for yourself but for those who are closest to you.
HOW TO IMPLEMENT ‘ME TIME’ INTO YOUR LIFE
1. Write a list of four things that you really enjoy doing or things that you know you should be doing more of. A few suggestions would be:
- Try that yoga class you have been meaning to do
- Make a coffee date with a good friend (without the kids)
- Have that well overdue manicure/pedicure that you’ve been wanting (and needing to do for quite some time)
- Sleep! Yep, you read that right, you may laugh reading this but sleep is so under rated and affects ALL areas of your life including your health and even the size of your waistline. If sleep is one thing you know you need more of, especially if you’re stressed and not getting at least 7-9 hours per night, then definitely write this one down.
2. Make an appointment with yourself and schedule one of these things it into your week, each week for the next four weeks. If you have included sleep on your list, the best way to schedule this is pick one night during the week after the kids go to bed (presumably not late), run yourself a nice Epsom salt bath, relax and then go to bed!
Now your me time doesn’t necessarily have to cost money either and it can be as little as a 30 minutes free ‘appointment’.
By scheduling ‘me time’ appointments into your weekly routine, you will have no reason to say, ‘but I just can’t fit it in!’
I know, I know things may come up, it’s life, it happens. The kids might get sick or you may have school duties that come up at the last-minute. But, just like you normally would with other appointments you make, re-schedule it.
If you think about it, we were all enjoying these things before we had kids, so what’s stopping us from enjoying them now? By implementing and taking action, not only will you positively reap the rewards, so will your family. This is your time to re-fuel, re-boot and refresh.
What appointment with yourself will you be making next week?