Ever had that feeling of simply being stuck? Doesn’t it just suck!? No matter how successful, switched on or connected we may be, we’ve all had that experience of a condition I like to call ‘stuck-itis’.
The symptoms of stuck-itis are many and varied depending on the severity of the case and the circumstances we find ourselves in and may include:
So what do we do to break through this feeling? We often struggle and strain through our blockages winding ourselves up in knots getting exhausted in the process only to realise we haven’t actually moved forward at all. Why? Perhaps we’re…
- trying too hard
- overcomplicating the situation
- over thinking things
- putting too much pressure on ourselves
- trying the same approach over and over again hoping for a different result…
… oh dear, isn’t that the definition of insanity!? Agh! No wonder we find ourselves stuck in a hole that just seems to be getting deeper! So how do we dig ourselves out? Put the shovel down, I’ve put together a list of 5 things that can help you come unstuck – the antidote to stuck-it is…
1. Acknowledge and accept
It does take courage to do this, but by simply acknowledging we’ve got a problem and accepting we’re stuck we can bring instant relief to the issue. When we deny, reject or fight our feelings we’re often adding fuel to the fire and inevitably make our situation worse. You’re not saying this issue will be there forever, you’re just coming to terms with your experience in order for you to make progress.
2. Release the issue
Stop trying to control the situation and force a solution. Take a moment release the issue, just for a moment. It doesn’t mean you don’t care, it just gives you the ability to breathe, gain perspective and be open to other possible solutions. You can do this by simply saying ‘I now let go of <insert issue>’. Then, importantly, stop thinking about it, talking about it and working on it. Literally let it go for 24 hours and see what happens. You can always come back to it tomorrow with fresh eyes. You’ll be better prepared to manage it and may even discover a different way of breaking through it.
3. Chill out
Once you’ve let the issue go, you’ll have the mental capacity to chill out and meditate, to really clear your subconscious of the clutter. Meditation means different things to different people and comes in many forms. You may sit, lie or stand whilst either repeating a mantra, a word or visualising an ideal scenario. You may even listen to a guided meditation from your library, book shop or download. The options are endless but in this instance the aim is the same – clarity. Engage in any peaceful and relaxing activity that clears you mind.
You’ve taken the time to sweep away the cob webs, now there’s room for new, positive and productive thoughts. Grab some paper and a pen and take a moment to capture them. If you find your pen ‘frozen’, very simply write at the top of your page the issue at hand in question form such as ‘How do I ….?’. Take a moment to reflect on that question and then write whatever comes to mind. It doesn’t need to make sense, be realistic, achievable or even spelt correctly. It just needs to be written down. When you’ve filled your page with whatever it is that came to mind take a moment to review what you’ve written and highlight the key concepts and solutions that resonate with you.
5. Design your new direction
Now that you’ve identified some options it’s time to decide on a new direction and design it. You may need a professional to help you with this, but if you take the time to invest in self-exploration and research you’ll be able to chart out a new course for yourself. Firstly, aim high, dream big and take a risk. Then break it down into achievable chunks and consistently chip away at it celebrating your successes along the way to your new destination.
Phew! Congratulations on taking the time out to cure your stuck-itis and all the very best as you embark on your new journey.